Wediquette Wednesday: Can the mother of the bride host a bridal shower? (2024)

EachWednesday, we tackle wedding etiquette. At times, it’s a reader question or one from a colleague, friend or family member and other times we’ll cover a popular issue. (Note: Questions may be edited for clarity and brevity.)

Question:My sister is engaged, and we are in the process of deciding who will host her main bridal shower. Our grandmother says our mom isn’t supposed to host one at all, but a lot of our friend’s moms have done this in the past. Our mom not only wants to host it, but also her house has the best space for it and is in the perfect locations. Can the mother of the bride host a bridal shower?

Answer:While your grandmother is correct that historically the mother of the bride did not host a bridal shower, it’s one of those rules of etiquette that has fallen away. It used to be viewed as a ‘gift grab’ when the shower was hosted by a member of the bride’s immediate family. Instead, we’d often see the in-laws, bridesmaids or family friends do it. However, it’s now acceptable for anyone who wants to throw it to do the honors and, of course, there also can be multiple showers for the different groups in the couple’s lives.

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